It’s not about rights; it’s about acceptance. That is the impetus behind the gay marriage movement.
Surprised? You thought it was about having equal rights. After all, you, a heterosexual, had a right they didn’t have – the right to marry. They told you that, and you, not wanting to appear bigoted, hateful, or being unjust, decided for gay marriage. Furthermore, they equated their struggle to those that wanted to marry inter-racially decades ago, and how that was (rightfully) remedied.
So then you signed that petition at the local arts and crafts show, for “equality” in marriage, and you felt good about it; I mean, equality is good, right?
There is one thing you need to understand when a social issue like this comes up: There’s always another side to the story, and the story you are hearing is not necessarily the truth. Such is the case here. Let me present my side of the story, as I’ve been fighting against gay marriage for years.
First of all, hate has nothing to do with it. Just because I disagree with your point of view, doesn’t mean I hate you. This is a common tactic by liberals, when they have no other argument left. You’re just a hateful person. You have to be, you don’t agree with them, and they can’t convince you, because you haven’t acquiesced. Having said that, some people just outright hate gays, I can’t deny it, and are against gay marriage just for that impetus; but my case is based on arguments, not emotion.
They already have the right to marry. This is the biggest lie gay marriage proponents propagate – some, unknowingly. The setup? You can marry, I can’t. Therefore, inequity. The claim is patently false; gay men can, and do, marry. They enjoy the same right that I, a heterosexual man, does. Is it arguable that a gay man cannot marry a woman, as I can? Do not gay men, in fact, marry women occasionally? It’s a fact, gay people have the same exact right I do – to marry someone of the opposite sex. There is no way to argue the point – yet, they do. They will counter, when presented with this fact, “Well, yeah, but I can’t marry the person I love, like you can.” Again, another falsehood. Can I marry anyone I love either? Can I marry the underage girl next door, my first cousin, or another married woman? No. Once again, they have the exact same right I do. Therefore, what they really must do, is redefine what marriage is – a union between one man and one woman – to make this work.
It’s not the same civil rights issue blacks faced. Not only is this false, this is insulting to a real civil rights issue. Let’s look at the history. At one time, black people couldn’t vote – in any way. Because they were black, they couldn’t vote. It was unjust, and it was remedied. In contrast, gays, as I’ve shown, can and do, marry. Black people couldn’t vote – in any way, gay people can marry. Another part of this civil rights struggle they try to reference is interracial marriage. Before 1967, blacks and whites couldn’t marry. Yet, the dynamic of a man and a woman was still there. THAT is the difference. With gay marriage, it’s absent. In fact, the difference is not something immutable – skin color – but something malleable – sexual orientation, identification and practices – all behaviors.
Passing a gay marriage bill will force churches to marry gays. Remember what I stated at the beginning – it’s all about acceptance, not rights. In American society, marriage is the “gold standard” of relationships; it’s the ultimate foundation of society, the basis of a family. It imparts certain rights – and responsibilities. Being homosexual implies relationship to another person – albeit one that is many times scorned. Therefore, if you can get societies’ stamp of approval, you normalize the relationship in society. That is step one – getting the legal system to recognize, and therefore legitimize – their relationship. The final voice against them is the church. They are the stalwart voice, the final hurdle, against total acceptance in society. So then, they must be stopped. Propoents of gay marriage will argue, “There’s a separation of church and state; they can’t make a law compelling clergy to marry gays.” And this is probably true. However, they can claim discrimination, and urge (bully) legislators to revoke a church’s tax exempt status. Pro-abortion advocates successfully put pressure on Catholic organizations to provide contraception to employees and patients. If you think the gay mafia is going to let clergy just rally against them and not take action, you’re sadly mistaken.
There are reasons to be against gay marriage – you believe it’s just wrong, it goes against your religion, you think it lowers your marriage – and so on. That is not a good way to argue agains them. Tear down their false premises, and the issue will resolve itself.
